Relationship status?

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garnetjester said:
I wouldn't really understand the artistic/marketing/etc motivation to write a number of songs about sensual stuff if you definitely have no interest in it.
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Asexuality doesn't mean you aren't interested sensual stuff. They just can't experience sexual attraction. The way you make it sound, not being able to experience something = no interest. Correct me if I'm misunderstanding you.

garnetjester said:
Being asexual, however, isn't something that is largely frowned upon (people can be mean about it but there is no state sanctioned persecution like there is for the LBGT community)
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Asexuality is apart of the LGBT (rather, lgbtqia+, or however you write it) community and the community faces oppression. Okay, there may not be state/country sanctioned stuff (afaik) for them, so...? That doesn't invalidate the things asexuals (bisexuals, pansexuals, demisexuals, etc...) go through. It's not a competition of who has it worse. Let's not pit their experiences against each other.
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For Asexuality (bisexuality, pansexuality, demisexuality, etc...) specifically, it may not 'frowned upon' in the same way, but it sure isn't 'accepted'. People literally don't think they exist. Many still use 'Ally' for the 'A' instead of aro/ace... There are many like the rest of the community that are told it's a mental issue and they need to be fixed, or " it's a phase".

garnetjester said:
I simply would like to understand why those who proposed she IS asexual think so, because I'm curious about it.
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I don't necessarily believe she is asexual or even on the spectrum. She may or may not be. I don't know. But, I don't think it should be ruled out because of what she writes about is all I'm saying.
 
This thread took an interesting turn. Did not expect to ever see discussion about sexuality here, lol.

Anyway, this discussion of a sexuality reminds me of an article I found a few months ago. It said that Japan is facing a birth deficiency b/c most of the people just aren't interested in sex. It's highly likely that Kajiura is among that demographic.
 
@garnetjester It's highly likely that you're confusing romantic orientation with sexual orientation. We've been taking about asexuality which means that someone feels no sexual attraction. However there is a scale when it comes to the ace spectrum. Kaijura could be Grey-ace meaning that she only experiences sexual orientation sometimes.

Your argument seems to suggest that Kaijura is aromantic since you phrase your argument saying that Kaijura feels nothing when it comes to relationships in all forms including the romantic stuff. With the current speculation your argument seems invalid since you're taking about the romantic orientation aromatic. As I've stated before someone's romantic orientation can be different to someone's sexual orientation.
I also know a asexual people who strongly fantasise about being in a relationship with someone.
I also know an armonatic who has been in various romantic reltaionships. Some people just love pleasing their partners. Also just because someone is asexual doesn't mean that they don't have sex, they just don't feel a desire to (there is a spectrum for that too)
 
I hope to make things clear for everyone:
I am an asexual, and I am sentimentally attracted to women.
So, this is possible, and Kajiura-sensei writting love songs while being asexual has nothing strange at all.
 
My idea:
I think that Kajiura-san is a single who reach to self-realization.
Girls from Kala... It's possible that one of them has a partner.
Keiko - probably she has informal relantionship with man/woman. She looks like she has a lot of satisfaction from it. Really she looks like a woman fulfilled in love relationship.
Hikaru - I doubt that she has a partner... She is really concentrated on Kalafina
Wakana - I think that she is romantic and dreams about romantic love.
Yuuka-chan - has a husband
Yuriko... - probably single? When I'm looking at her she's looking lonely - but it's maybe only my imagination.
Kaori - yes, probably Kaori has a partner
 
This thread is getting more and more interesting.
And yes, gays/lesbians can write love (and more:plot:) stories about straight people.


I hope Kajiura-san will never read this thread... :omg:
 
Even if she does, we dont so something bad, considering she has given no information about her sentimental life, so everything we say here its just speculation, so I think she wont mind it.
 
Yeah, this thread did go in an unexpected and interesting direction, didn't it?

I guess it boils down to the fact that it's kinda hard to imagine the POV of someone whose gender, orientation or preferences are different from your own. I'd like to think that I'm more tolerant and accepting of that sort of thing now, but my own experiences don't allow me to really understand them as much as I'd like.

The songwriting angle is another thing that's probably more complicated than it looks. I personally find writing lyrics to be extremely difficult, but many songwriter interviews I've read suggest that they intentionally leave things vague to allow for the listerners' own interpretations. That or they draw inspiration from elsewhere, so the meaning of a song may not refer to the lyricist's own personal experiences at all. Since YK often writes *for* someone else's movie/TV/game script, she probably writes from other people's perspectives as a matter of routine. TBH, being able to see things from a different person's perspective, and do it convincingly, is a sign of a good storyteller. And song lyrics are sort of short stories in the own right.

All I'm saying is, I wouldn't read one of her lyrics and assume it's autobiographical!
 
@Spirica Rose I stated several times that I know asexuals DO experience affection and romantic love, just not the sexual part (I would know, because I'm demisexual, I didn't want to air my sexuality all over the internet but here we go, that's why I stated that I know about how there is an ace spectrum), but then it's more from a platonic or romantic POV AFAIK.

And about the struggles of the asexual community, I didn't want to play the opression olympics, because everyone has issues, but I did think that george1234's point about gay people writing straight couples could be moot in many instances where there are no other options for writers to talk about their ideas for romance without being subject to controversy. I didn't mean that asexual people don't deal with their own issues mainly due to erasure, but I think the nuances are a little different, at least when it comes to the mainstream opinion in the west.

Finally, thank you all for answering my question of why you thought Kajiura fit in the "asexual" category, it's intersting to discuss different points of view, although of course, we all know that this is speculation. (and I was just curious as why many of you thought this, not that I think she must be something or other)
 
nodame89 said:
Keiko - probably she has informal relantionship with man/woman. She looks like she has a lot of satisfaction from it. Really she looks like a woman fulfilled in love relationship.
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You know, ive been reading your post here and in the 'rank yukis vocalists' and i must say from some reason, I really like your style of writing c:

Yes, i realised i never really answered this thread so I shall do so now

Kala Girls:

I do think Keiko is in a relationship atm.

I think Wakana just ended a relationship which might have simultaneously lead to her being demotivated and losing her source of aspiration around 2012ish but since everything heals better with time, shes learning to move on now (or maybe she found someone else) [i should write a fanfiction about this]

As for Hikaru, I am not really sure, she seems like someone who is fully devoted to her work and would rather not be in a relationship until she can truly dedicate time to her partner. So I believe, there is someone important in her life, but she is not dating that person as she rather not.

Haiz i think ive been reading too many romantic novels ><
 
Kowz said:
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Wakana x Keiko
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SO TRUE.
tbh if I had to speculate anything on Kalafina's love life.
Hikaru: Probably doesn't have anyone special atm. She's probably too busy focusing on Kalafina, most of the girls do.
Wakana: She might be interested in someone. I can never tell with Wakana anything she talks about and the ways she talks kind of plays a poker face with me xD I can't tell. However I'd say that she'd probably be equally focused of Kalafina and love.
Keiko: Keiko always seems really outgoing it's quite possible she's looking at / is in a more of a relationship focused partner with many bubbling bonding experiences
I'd enjoy if Kekio and Hikaru were in just a teensy tiny mini kinda friendship/ romantically focused relationship. Because Keiko is so bright and Hikaru from that Budokan documentary was just soo cutesy and happy :dote::sohappy::sohappy:

Also Kaijura reads these threads?!?!:vortex:
 
@garnetjester, I do apologize for anything I may have said that made you feel you had to put your sexuality on the internet when you didn't want to. That was not my intention. :uh..: I likely interpreted something from your posts in a different context than its original meaning. I think it's only fair that I say I currently identify as aro ace and it seems we were approaching from two different POV.

Ah, see I wasn't thinking about george's comment, merely in the words itself. I get what you're saying.
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On the Kalafina ladies, I think they're very focused on the group and their relationship status hasn't really crossed my mind.
 
Thank goodness for this thread, have been meaning to ask this for a very long time now.
Anyway, the discussion is really interesting so far and tbh I don't mind about any of the girls' romantic/sexual orientation nor their current relationship status as long as they're happy :love:

(But wow if any of them are in a relationship rn I am really impressed with their ability to keep it private :goodjob: I guess they're not the sort of celebrities whose love lives would be interesting enough to be featured in a Japanese tabloid <*ehem*idols*ehem*>. Not that it's not interesting, but it's just not something that most fans would fuss about, would it? :gimmeh:)
 
sutekinanijinoiro said:
tbh I don't mind about any of the girls' romantic/sexual orientation nor their current relationship status as long as they're happy :love:
(But wow if any of them are in a relationship rn I am really impressed with their ability to keep it private :goodjob: I guess they're not the sort of celebrities whose love lives would be interesting enough to be featured in a Japanese tabloid <*ehem*idols*ehem*>.
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Man I really want to know. I'm so curious. Are the members so unpopular in Japan?
I cant believe there is no reporter out there who follows the singers and is unable to see if they meet someone.
But maybe its different in their culture.

Maybe I make a twitter account and ask them myself.

(BTW @sutekinanijinoiro I saw you have played the Batman games. Where would you rank Arkham Knight?
I love Asylum and City was great too. I was a little disappointed by Origin.
How is Knight in relation to these games?)
 
They dont have paparazzi there, and believe me there are far more popular artists than Kalafina (just look at their sales), so the reporter you say would get more money if stalks, say AKB48, than Kalafina. And why do you care so much if they are in relationship or not ? Even if they didnt, the chances of meeting them, and falling in love with you (or any of us), and pursueing to have relationship with the said person, are close to zero.

I suggest you dont send a twit because:
- You will be seen rude and nosy
- You will not get a reply for sure. If they dont say these things in public or in interviews, why tell them to you ?
- You will make a bad name for all their fans.
 
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